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laurainlimbo at 04:01am on 27/01/2010 under writer's block
laurainlimbo at 04:01am on 27/01/2010 under writer's block[Error: unknown template qotd]
Um yes, I was defriended once without explanation - thankfully only once. and I never found out why. it was a bit annoying because I felt I had been dumped. But on the other hand, I did defriend someone once without saying anything; I just got kind of annoyed with her attitude. she was kind of full of herself, and when I wrote comments on her posts, she was rude. also, we had nothing in common.
I've been hesitant to defriend anyone in a long time, mostly because I like all the people I friend on LJ, and it always makes me sad to cut off a contact. It seems so final.
But here's a good opportunity to ask some de-friending etiquette:
I've been wondering if it's bad taste to delete someone from your friend's list because either they haven't posted in many months. There are several people on my friend's list who haven't posted even one message in over six months. One friend hasn't posted in over a year. but there's really no reason to delete them right? They might come back.
But what about this: what if someone posts, and you reply, but they never reply back... or they used to reply to your posts all the time, but now they don't, and they ignore all your replies and even your personal messages. Is it then okay to delete them? Should I tell them first?
And another situation: What if you "friend" someone on LJ, and you read and reply to their posts, but they never once write anything back, or reply to even one of your posts? is it then okay to defriend?
oh and while we're on the subject, just yesterday I found out that three people, all supposedly related to each other, had all deleted their LJ journals. Their names were crossed out on my friend's list. But I don't know what the heck happened? One of them has been opening and closing her LJ for a long time, and now she's even deleted her facebook page. her father did too. it's weird stuff... (java_fiend knows who I'm talking about)... And if she's reading this, I hope she'll give me an explanation.
Um yes, I was defriended once without explanation - thankfully only once. and I never found out why. it was a bit annoying because I felt I had been dumped. But on the other hand, I did defriend someone once without saying anything; I just got kind of annoyed with her attitude. she was kind of full of herself, and when I wrote comments on her posts, she was rude. also, we had nothing in common.
I've been hesitant to defriend anyone in a long time, mostly because I like all the people I friend on LJ, and it always makes me sad to cut off a contact. It seems so final.
But here's a good opportunity to ask some de-friending etiquette:
I've been wondering if it's bad taste to delete someone from your friend's list because either they haven't posted in many months. There are several people on my friend's list who haven't posted even one message in over six months. One friend hasn't posted in over a year. but there's really no reason to delete them right? They might come back.
But what about this: what if someone posts, and you reply, but they never reply back... or they used to reply to your posts all the time, but now they don't, and they ignore all your replies and even your personal messages. Is it then okay to delete them? Should I tell them first?
And another situation: What if you "friend" someone on LJ, and you read and reply to their posts, but they never once write anything back, or reply to even one of your posts? is it then okay to defriend?
oh and while we're on the subject, just yesterday I found out that three people, all supposedly related to each other, had all deleted their LJ journals. Their names were crossed out on my friend's list. But I don't know what the heck happened? One of them has been opening and closing her LJ for a long time, and now she's even deleted her facebook page. her father did too. it's weird stuff... (
java_fiend knows who I'm talking about)... And if she's reading this, I hope she'll give me an explanation.
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